Madonna and the Adoption (My Thoughts)

I was sad to hear that Judge Esmie Chombo rejected the adoption on grounds that Malawi laws require prospective parents to live in the country for 18 to 24 months.
The judge said in the ruling.“Whilst there is a felt need to open a window for inter-country adoption there is a caution and clearly some felt tension between the rights of the child to adequate welfare and the need to protect the subject of the adoption,”

I was surprised with the ruling because in reality Malawi has no proper laws governing the adoption of kids be it by foreigners or Malawians themselves. So far the laws are by far outdated and irrelevant to this day and age.

The issue is to safeguard the well being of children and prevent trafficking of vulnerable children. This is a different case all together in that Madonna has adopted already in Malawi the most famous Malawian kid so far, namely David Banda. All eyes are on Madonna and evidence so far shows that she is looking after him well and now she wanted a Daughter to play with David. As much as I understand they want to protect children from exploitation by traffickers, the records show there were 4 other kids adopted to America from Malawi. I wonder under what circumstance they were granted those adoptions.

Judge Chombo should have put the welfare of the child first, because yes Madonna is single but, is it not better than having no mother at all? The issue of parents living with the child in Malawi for 18 to 24 months is a non starter for one thing people have to earn a living and this should only apply to people residing in Malawi. Oh yeah Just remembered Muluzi adopted Kids when he was President I can not remember them kids living with Muluzi for 18 to 24 months before being adopted. Why was that not done? Probably because Muluzi was the president and an exception was made. Should it not be the case here to make an exception after all Madonna has already adopted another child under the same laws?

The issue at hand should be starting a debate on the way forward. Personally I would say let this kid (Mercy) go with Madonna but the country should now look into changing its laws on adoption to reflect this day and age. Do you really think that 18 to 24 months is a problem for pedophile? This is what they pedophiles do, they groom kids for years. A pedophile can come and stay with the kid in Malawi and not show their true colors knowing fully well that they are being monitored. Once in their home country they can start showing their true colors. This law has loop holes and really does not protect kids from harm.

It's high time the government change the laws and get all the stake holders involved. Furthermore the government needs to create relationships with outside countries with robust child services. A child services department if not in place already should be there to liaise with other child services in foreign countries. The government needs to do enhanced back ground checks of any prospective parents in their countries through the police, social services and any other stake holders in those countries. Save the children UK can be one of such stake holders since they are in a lot of countries and they care about the plight of all children. Follow ups should also be done on adopted children to see how they are doing. There is more that needs doing and these are just some of them.

I hope for the sake of the child (mercy) Madonna will appeal and i hope the child's welfare will be considered carefully. Now a guy claiming to be Mercy's dad has come up and say he wants his daughter. In the first place this girl should go no where near this guy. If it is true that he impregnated a minor he should be prosecuted for statutory rape for sleeping with a minor. Where has he been all this time? I for one hate rapist of any kind and this guy if he is what he says he is need to be put away before he does the same thing to some other unsuspecting girl. It is a shame that poverty and ignorance as far as the law is concerned is costing our country of these young girls. They are induced by monetary rewards that these chidya makandas (paedophiles) offer them. some only offer them as little as a bar of soap some just a meal like chicken and chips. For now i will leave it there because it is beyond the scope of this discussion.

Kaliati's apologies

Rumour has it that kaliati was apologising to her congregation about how she came across with her use of words and her persona. In actual fact i think it is men who should be apologising. At least she got some balls, actually she got more balls than both tembo and Muluzi combined. come on, what has she said that has not been said before. Which swear word has not been said before. Dumbo Lemani used to do this for a living no one to my knowledge made a fuss about it. But Honorable kaliati say the same thing oh it is an offence.

Oh yeah the issue about her assaulting some tart messing with her husband and you still blame her. Ha Ha Ha and you wonder why Malawians are dying of HIV/Aids? We should be praising her for raising the alert on women who prey on other women's husbands; and as well husbands who sleep around. To know it all is to forgive all. Most of you, who criticise Kaliati, have no idea what it was like growing up like her, having the same background. I am sure if most of you had the same back ground would have grown up to be just like her. You have no idea what it is like to be a tough woman in a male dominated environment. I am sure you would be just like her. Let us all forgive and forget. If you feel you have never been at fault then throw the first stone. I like honorable Kalati to bits and I think she deserve a round of applause for having some balls to admit her mistakes.

Hate her or love her the girl is on top and she will shine as a woman who kicked some butt. One love,I think women are smarter than most men in this life. you dig?

Ps,... it is a good thing to realise ones mistake hope you will stop swearing like you said you will there is really no need. Just find another way to put your point across. Other wise all the best on the 19th.

Thief and the Beast

It did not come as surprise to hear that the thief and the beast have come up to join forces In this, forth coming elections. I would say things are very interesting and very sad. Interesting because Muluzi the thief said he will never work with Tembo the beast, as Muluzi felt that Tembo has got too much blood on his hands. It’s amazing how the same Tembo is now forging an alliance with Muluzi. If I remember correctly Muluzi had Tembo arrested and imprisoned for the Mwanza murders, but he Tembo was acquitted. I am sure Tembo has that in mind and from what I have gathered about his personality he harbours grudges. I can see this turning out like Muluzi and Bingu saga where Bingu dumped Muluzi soon after being elected.

Muluzi will never learn he chose Bingu who was an outsider instead of choosing some senior figures within the party. Now this time around Muluzi decides to impose himself on UDF claiming the people voted for him when in actual fact he stole the mantle from Chilumpa through intimidation and unfair election practises. Now comes the section 83 evidently the law does not allow him to stand but, as with the case with most delusional people he thought he could manipulate the laws and still thinks Malawians want him back in power. Funny thing is the opinion of many Malawians is of the contrary. When MEC refused Muluzi to stand he thought people were going to riot but it went silently because it is not about Malwians but one man clinging to power. There are some deluded Malawians who still follow Muluzi some of them well informed but with minds corrupted by greed and Envy. I can no longer blame my fellow malawians in villages as it has been known that they villagers can make the right chice. It is the so called educated people who are at fault, apparantly greedy and corrupt irespective of education and exposure they still come out as Educated but un learned. Obviously Bingu pissed of some people in UDF by dumping them, nothing personal just business. In fact it is because of greed by Muluzi that Bingu dumped UDF. If he Muluzi could just retire and leave other people to run the country none of this problems would surface.

Now Muluzi is out to revenge against Bingu not to contribute to Malawi’s quest for development. Come to think of it, all the money that Muluzi has spent on his campaign for re-election is huge. This money could have been better spent on helping the poor people of Malawi if at all he gives a shit about them. He would have even spent the money on his party to strengthen it.

Now instead of UDF as a party to select a new leader they are now contemplating an alliance with the beast himself(Tembo). Mpinganjira cleverly aligned himself to Tembo knowing well that Muluzi was not going to be allowed to stand. However there seems to be a problem with UDF people with BJ as a running mate which will just mess up the whole sitiuation. UDF appears to be a shadow of its own, the once Mighty UDF has been reduced to scraping for what ever alliances just to get back to power. In my view this is the end of UDF as a party, believe me Tembo is no fool he will dump UDF once in power just like Bingu did. Bingu did the right thing. The best way forward for UDF would have been to choose a new leader and face the elections as a seperate entity, yes they will loose but they would have concentrated on rebuilding their party.

UDF is an embarrassment to our society. It is a party that has been reduced to a family entity more like a monarchy. All meetings are done at Muluzis residence in BCA hill. What happen to the UDF offices. How can party members, express themselves freely in such an environment. Oh yeah another one is Tembo running MCP like his own family entity all meetings done at his area 10 residence. Come on people if these leaders can not be democratic in their own parties so imagine what they will do to the common Malawians.

You might say people change but these two will never change evidenced by their behaviour over the past five years. Shooting down the budgets over five years, forgetting that it is the electorate that voted for them in the first place. Muluzi wants just to revenge for being dumped and he wants also to enrich himself more like last time. While Tembo also wants to revenge on Bingu for not letting him to have his on way on section 65.

Alliances should be made to help the people of Malawi not to enrich a few and certainly not for revenge. Alliances should be made to defeat the three most enemies of our nation Hunger, Disease and Envy. Alliances should not be made to settle old scores or to promote greed. In all this alliance is ill intentioned and definitely not in the interest of Malawians. I personally think that Bingu will win and defeat both Muluzi and Tembo. MCP got so many votes because people were tired of UDF and its Leadership. Now People are obviously tired of Muluzi clinging to power and Tembo should not count on the centre because now people have choices and are wiser. My fellow Malawians, Malawi is now changing. By 2014 we should have different leadership, in all the parties we need fresh faces new approaches. I know for a fact that Bingu promised to retire so if he wins he will pass on the helm to some one else by 2014. I hope all other party leaders will follow suit once you lose an election it is good to give a chance to some one else.


Bingu has his problems for he is only human just like everyone else and he only goes for those who are after him. Compared to MCP rule when ordinary Malawians were being fed to crocodiles and during UDF years young democrats were beaten up people in broad day light and terrorising ordinary people. Besides the courts are independent so people can go prove their innocence.

Sleepless

It's 12 midnight and i can not sleep i have tried drinking few beers its not helping. Oh shit what can I do? funny thing is i still wake up early no matter how late I go to bed. I could try sex at least it will wear me out but I am all alone. Well I do have my hands the left one I call it Victoria and the right hand I call it Mercy. I could just wank but it's not really my thing. Oh maybe I should just buy a pocket vagina very handy I am told, always available, no mood swings, anywhere, anyplace, anytime, plus no fake headaches. Anyone out there have a better suggestion? Let I Big will know.

UDF Retreat and the Malawian Dream

Finally UDF seems to be waking up from the long snooze. Rumour has it that they are contemplating choosing a replacement for Muluzi. This is a welcome development and it is long over due. Muluzi should even be replaced as the chairman of the party believe me people that’s the best thing for UDF. Muluzi is doing more harm than good not only to UDF but Malawi as a whole. We should not just blame Muluzi because word is some of the UDF governors were proposing Shanil Muluzi as replacement. Come on what is this, a family business or an independent party? It is true Dictators are not born but made by overzealous tarts like these UDF regional governors.

Personally do not have any problem with UDF as whole because I know there are decent few people in there left like kaka chilumpa and others who openly challenged Muluzi. It is high time Muluzi realise, you can only push people so much especially Malawians. UDF is full of Crooks who will do anything to get into government again. They need to rip off Malawians again. What most people in Malawi fail to understand is that times are now moving and the culture is changing. Soon we will be rid of tarts like these UDF governors and other people with blind royalty toward leaders.

I have a dream that one day all previous presidents will no longer want to cling to power way past their mandated time. I have a dream that one day blind royalty by people like Thom likambale and UDF regional governors over leaders like Muluzi or any other leader would no longer exist among Malawians. I have a dream that one day Malawians would no longer vote on regional lines or district lines but rather on the ability and policies of the one standing for office. I have a dream that one day Members of parliament would no longer serve their political masters but rather serve their true master that is the electorate. I have a dream that one day Malawians would choose wisely and vote for legislators who will represent the interest of their electorate and actually make a difference in their constituencies. I have a dream that one day all the media will be independent and report freely without favour or fear. I have a dream that one day I will be able to sleep in my house soundly without fear of any armed robbers. I have a dream that one day I will be able to run a shop or pub without fear of my hard earned money being stolen by thieves. I have a dream that one day all Malawians would be able to look at Malawians as Malawians and not divide us along tribal and regional lines. I have a dream that one day Nkoma synod and Livingstonia synod will be able to iron out their differences. I have a dream that one day all women will be treated as equals to men. I have a dream that one day all political parties will be very democratic and allow their membership to exercise their God given rights. I have a dream that one day HIV/AIDS will be eradicated amongst our society. I have a dream that one day Africans will be treated as equals to the rest of the world. I have a dream that one day Malawi will be a better place with lots of opportunities. I also have a dream that one day witchcraft will be a thing of the past and that all Malawians will work hard to earn a living. I also have a dream that most Malawians will learn to take calculated risks and abandon the culture of copying for the sake of it.

I had these dreams while awake and I hope my fellow Malawians will share with me these dreams and I know they will come true soon or later. Every one has dreams in Malawi some dreams come true some don’t but keep dreaming don’t give up.
One Love, One Malawi, One People
God bless Malawi

sitting around in the lounge with family watching TV loooking at every one apear very happpy. Minds clear no worries for a moment nothing matters. yes problems exist but for one moment in time you are alive

Aids and the blame on the British

Well I read an article the other day on Mmalawi blog banging on about HIV/AIDS and suggesting that the British are to blame. Somehow, I find it so hard to believe typical African mentality. Oh yeah blame every one but one self. Come on, do the British force people to sleep around without protection. If anything Britain and other donor countries helped in pressuring the then government of Kamuzu to do more in educating people about the dangers of HIV/AIDS. You can at least blame the Pope for still insisting that he is against condoms, no wonder they are loosing patronage in the west. Now they are relying on Africa as it has one of the fastest growing patronages. Surely this concept of not changing with time is what is losing them patronage in the west. Africa now has this massive problem with HIV/AIDS and it annoys me that the Pope is still clinging to this idea of being against condoms. What good is a dying congregation? Soon there will be no one to preach to. Actually priests are dying of HIV/AIDS here in Malawi but as usual the Catholic Church is in denial. Like the denial the Catholic Church was when the issue of priests sexually abusing kid first came out. Oh yeah you want to come back a few years from now and apologise, when actually you can do something about it now. Desperate times calls for desperate measures.

Blame should also be on our culture or rather the guardians of our culture. What good is a culture that prevents parents from discussing sex issues with their kids? What good is a culture that prevents adverts about sex from being aired on freely on the radio or TV? What good is a culture that glorifies a man for sleeping around? What good is a culture that is costing so many innocent women’s lives? Yeah most women are very faithful and are usually home and the men go and sleep around coming home with all sorts of sexually transmitted diseases. Innocent kids are left to fend for themselves, their extended families at the fore front seizing all the property and any wealth that their parents might have accumulated for their kids. In the end the kids seeking refuge at an orphanage, if they are lucky. The not so lucky kids just fall prey to all sorts of abuse like rape, child trafficking, prostitution, physical abuse etc.

It is high time we Malawians take responsibility, I know the government is doing its bit but there is more that can be done to educate people about HIV/AIDS. People need to be given proper information so that they can make well informed choices. Adult illiteracy is one of the biggest problems. Educating the youth more about HIV/AIDS, parents need to abandon these rubbish cultures and face up to reality. Would you not rather your child learn more about sex from you than from his friends? It is a matter of life and death here, the whole future of your children, grand children, and great grand children is at stake here. It is also time for Africans to be accountable for our actions stop blaming everyone else. Point the finger where it belongs yeah yourselves. We all know how to prevent this deadly disease I will spell it out to you ABSTAIN if you can not then WEAR A CONDOM, better still get one partner and BE FAITHFULL TO YOUR PARTNER, that includes you men. Stop being selfish think of your kids and family what will become of them. Oh one other thing charities stop spending money on yourselves, like buying luxury cars when the money can be better spent on the people who need it most. There should be a balance between these cultures and what really needs doing. Desperate times calls for desperate measures. Men need to change their altitude to reflect the times these are no longer the times for men to be sleeping around. Women also need to do their bit these are not the times to put up with cheating men HIV/AIDS is real, stay alive.

It annoys me more to see that a few peoples conservatism is allowed to shape the direction of our society. Young people some how should be empowered to participate fully in shaping our society today. I think we spend too much time worrying about the future so much so that we forget today. It is only in doing something today that we shape the future the way want it. I welcome the vision or concept by Ngwazi Dr Bingu Wa Muthalika of involving the youth today. The Ngwazi went on to say that he does not agree with the concept that the young people are the Leaders of tomorrow but rather that they are the readers of today. I hope if he wins in the next general election he will honour his words and involve a lot of qualified youth in the running of the government and other positions of influence. Actually it is about time you saw what our elders can do in parliament just like a bunch of jerks. I think its time for women and the youth to take over. Come on the youth and women lets take over and show these fools how it’s done.

LAST BUT NOT LEAST STOP BLAMING EVERYONE BUT YOURSELVES
ABSTAIN IF NOT THEN CONDOMS ESSENTIAL WEAR
DON’T BE A GONNER STAY ALIVE

Madonna's Adoption Saga

Word is Madonna is trying to adopt another child from Malawi, a female child this time around. When she first adopted David Banda, there was so much hype, this and that and thank god it went through. This time around save the children UK seem to be against this new adoption from Madonna. Apparently they are saying that the best place for that child is in Malawi among his extended family and in her culture bla, bla, bla.

Well I beg to differ you see this guy from save the children has no idea what it is like to be in an orphanage in Malawi. Think about the loneliness being parentless as the case with this child. Now in comes a Samaritan offering this child a loving home and a chance for a family. What ever reason Madonna is doing these adoption does not matter, the fact is she is trying to give this girl a chance of a better life. Come on, think about it the fact that the child is in a orphanage means that the extended family if she has any are not capable of taking care of her. Besides as much as we have extended families in our culture in Malawi not every family has an extended family. There are a lot of factors that are contributing to the erosion of our culture as far as extended families are concerned. Firstly there is this HIV/AIDS pandemic, a shift in peoples cultures due to influence from western cultures and financial constraints People are facing and so forth.

I can not entirely blame the Save the Children UK for their stance for they just like everybody else have their own opinion. Celebrities are also their main source of their income, three quarters of which is spent on the organisations themselves living in luxury. I think Madonna has done a good thing starting a debate on the way forward for the plight of orphan’s globally. What save the children are advocating could be seen as discrimination in such that they see a white person adopting a poor African child as some thing morally wrong and yet If Madonna adopts a European child there is nothing wrong with that. We can not choose where we are born, but just because you were born in Malawi dos not mean that you are not entitled to experience a different way of life. Irrespective of being a Malawian this child should have the same rights as every other British orphan. Culture is something that we all pick up along the way as we struggle through life. Human beings can be shaped by their surrounding but that’s why we have education. We get educated and learn as we go through life plus knowledge passed from parents; we eventually reach point where we make well informed choices.

Save the children Fund should now look at it self and realise that times are changing throwing aid to Africans has shown that it is not working. The concept that some how the money used to adopt and raise this child would help her in her present environment is a non starter. This Malawian child is no wild animal that she should need to be left in her environment to flourish and prosper. This might be a chance for this kid for a better life and lots of opportunities. Malawi has about a million orphans surely if some one comes to offer one child a home and chance for a better education and a family that she can call her own. I thought save the children was there to save the children from harm but now it looks like it is Save the Children from better prosperous future. We Africans no longer need survival we need empowerment need to be self sufficient. If you charities really want to help then lobby your governments for fair trade help empower African people. It would be most helpful if you learn to treat us like equals, an African orphan should have the same basic human rights like a European orphan.


In all Madonna is making her adoption application in Malawi and it is only here in Malawi that, the final decision can be made. We Malawian know what’s best for Malawians. Culture should no longer be a barrier or an excuse for denying a child a chance of having a family she can call her own. British or Malawian orphans should have the same opportunities in life. It should not be a case of where one is born rather the ability of the one adopting to give that child the best life possible. It is not the case of money rather the love and comfort of a family. Every child deserves a happy home irrespective of who they are. After all this kid is so young does not even have a clue what culture is at the moment, she is innocent she will have to learn everything from start. I think that’s a good thing . When she grows up she will make up her own mind what’s wrong or right which culture to follow. Culture should not be forced on any child rather every child should be able to make well informed choices of how they lead their lives.

Bakili Muluzi delt a blow

Finally the day of reckoning came when Electoral Commission of Malawi rose to the occasion and announced that Muluzi was not eligible to stand as a candidate. Because of section 83 sub section 3 Which emphasise that a president shall serve a maximum of two consecutive terms. The emphasis being on the maximum of two terms Oh this is democracy at its best and this should serve as a warning to all political leaders once you are president you only have a maximum of two terms and that's all. Please do not sink as low as Bakili Muluzi. Oh people is this guy thick or what? He tried pushing for open term but failed then tried third term, people refused. Come on cant you get it we do not need you any longer to lead us you had your time please for the sake of Malawi just let go. We will have more respect for you that way. You really should join Chisano and Masile. I know letting go is hard to do but, now is a good time do not embarrass yourself further.

I think Muluzi knew he was going to be refused to run again you see when the other UDF gurus orchestrated to refuse him the third term it did not go well with him so he vowed to revenge, What better way to revenge than to pick an outsider in the name of Bingu Wa Muthalika. Unfortunately it backfired for Bingu is no puppet and dumped Muluzi's party. This really pissed off Muluzi he has tried everything to get rid of Bingu for the past 5 years. He has frustrated Bingu’s government in parliament coupled by his yes bwana MP's who really in my view were just promoting party agendas instead of looking out for the people who ushered them to parliament. A lot of bills have gone not being debated with the opposition prioritising section 65. To my knowledge the section 65 is still in court through an injunction from MP's affected. Muluzi's UDF and those zombies from MCP, zombies because they can not think on their feet just do as they are told by John Tembo. These zombies prioritised the section 65 when in fact the speaker’s hands were tied by the injunctions obtained by Yunus Mussa and his fellow MP’s. So in reality there was no violation of the constitution and you wonder what Tembo was on about saying Bingu has a case to answer. I bet Tembo saw that as an opportunity to get the presidency through the back door. Because the plan was for Tembo to run the transition government, that is if Bingu was successfully impeached. The impeachment initiated by Lucius Banda I wonder what the hell he was thinking, oh I know he wanted to be given a ministerial post. It’s sad for I thought he was going there to fight for the poor people of balaka or at least I thought he was. Now Lucius is as corrupt as Muluzi himself. Good thing for him is he has a talent for music please stick to the day Job Lucius. Oh by the way you are still one of my favourite singers and nothing personal I just hope you learn from those mistakes.


Eventually Muluzi knew he could not defeat Bingu, then he decided that if he was going to go down he might as well take UDF down with him. So he decided to run for UDF presidency as their torch bearer knowing full well he was not going to be allowed to stand for the third time. He just did not want anyone In UDF to run for president If he fails they all fail since it will be too late to field another candidate. I fail to understand the logic of these leaders instead of showing the nation their good side and what they can do or alternatives to Bingu's way of ruling, they were busy shooting down the budget at the expense of ordinary Malawians. Yeah remember us Malawians you did not even give toss about us in parliament now its time to rip what you saw, you gonna loose fools we will be laughing.


I hope all you Malawians will choose wisely this time we do not need fools in parliament women maybe you can make a difference. Come on I urge you women to get elected to parliament and show these Zombie MP's how it is done. Oh yeah UDF MP's are also Zombie's too far up Muluzi's arse don't now what’s wrong or right, increasingly detached from reality and the electorate. MP's now, the spot light is on you I think they should introduce a concept of recalling MP's there should be transparency and accountability. If you look at it seriously MP's are only accountable to their party and not the electorate. Most get elected into parliament and do nothing but corruption and enrichment; yes we end up voting them out at the next election but in the end 5 lost years of no development. Whilst if we could hold them into account and recall these fools, maybe we could knock some sense into them. Don't get me wrong I know there are some MP's who actually do things to change their areas but they are few and far between.


At least finally Malawians are witnessing the democracy that we fought for we should fight for our ideals no more third term for Muluzi. It is a matter of principal and now my fellow Malawians lets go and vote in numbers and re elect Bingu and see wonders as for Nyondo I like his style keep an eye out for him in 2014 I just think his timing was a bit wrong he should have waited for 2014 because all candidates will be new to the electorate as far as the presidency is concerned So his chances will be high. Unfortunately now no one can give the running of the country to a little known man, when there is a better alternative in Ngwazi Bingu Wa Muthalika. However on second thought Nyondo might have done a good move because now every one will know him now. I however think he will get miserly votes like Bingu did when he first run for president. It seems like he is trying to do an Obama style, a relative outsider taking over the reigns of power. But I am afraid that the country is not ready yet for this phenomenon, most people who vote in Malawi are people in the village and I am afraid promises would not amount to anything. You see Muluzi promised a lot of things and did not fulfil them so now people are very sceptical these days. Anyway all the best and God bless Malawi

Women's suffering

Why would some one in their right mind go ahead and arrange a marriage for their child without knowing how they will feel. Well actually it explains how one feels and the mentality basically they don't care because it is their tradition. Umm like they say the same shit that the parents know is the same shit that they will pass on to their children. Well it is sad really especially the women, The husband to be usually is allowed to shag as many women as he likes and the woman is supposed to be a virgin. Women being beaten up losing teeth being shouted and threatened every day. Trapped cant even get out being psychologically abused, sexual starvation made to feel rejected and developing low self esteem. I think time has come that all women should be given a choice really and empowerment. It is nice to see women taking centre stage in some societies. I was saddened by some News that was run on aljazera showing these men in India beating up women who went to the pub to enjoy themselves saying that's against their culture. Saying that they(MEN) are trying to restore their culture. How pathetic picking on defenseless women. I remember when girls started wearing trousers and mini skirts in Malawi. Oh boy it caused so much controversy some girls were ridiculed beaten up taunted and some even raped. there was a case in court where a victim of rape was asked to wear what she wore on the day she was raped. Once she came out wearing what she wore that day the case was dismissed saying she asked for it. I don't think anything like this can happen now in Malawi,because at least now there are a few organisations protecting women rights. As much as it is a case of mainly men feeling threatened by their women it is also a case of history. Some say a woman has got her place when given too much power it messes up their morals and start looking at men as being inferior. In the end they make fun of their men eventually braking up as they feel the men are dragging them. This is however not entirely true as their are some men who enjoy being in the back ground. Like some tribes in south Africa and Zimbabwe the women work and feed the family while the husband house sits at home and look after the children. I also find it interesting about a certain tribe in Asia that share wives, a case of two or three men being married to one woman. Funny enough every one seems happy in their culture to share the wife. Yet if you come to African cultures that's unheard off the woman will be killed. In Egypt and other Arab countries on the other hand Men who rape women are forced to marry that woman. AS if that would be comforting imagine the nightmare of leaving and sleeping with the rapist. In some sectors of Arab countries women are raped as a form of punishment. Unfortunately done with the women's family consent. Just in my back yard in Malawi these men in Mangochi marry their own daughters chasing their wives. I'm not sure if this is going on because it is just sick but last i heard some women rights group was lobbying government to do something about it. it is sad weird and strange that all this is going on in the world there is probably more that i haven't listed here all i can say is keep your head up women change is coming. They can delay the change but they cant stop it.

Risk taking

It saddens me to note that my fellow Malawians are not risk takers rather would like to follow. I keep arguing with my brother that he should join my way of thinking of pursuing his own business. But he like most people tends to be cautious with his approach to life. Does not like to take the risks, well in a way I can understand his way of thinking. It comes from the old generation approach to life where they invest all their money in their children in the hope that they get education and go into work. Its amazing that we were raised the same way but have a very different approach towards life where as I believe in taking risks and my views does seem a little bit controversial because I don’t believe in rules traditional and norms that where made 100 years ago irrelevant to this day and age. My brother on the other end is very traditional in his beliefs and follows the cultures and norms like a ritual. Where as I appreciate the need to observe and follow our cultures I also believe in changing those cultures to reflect the time and day. Come on parents of today, should change their perception towards school and their children as a whole. It should be now that children go to school to make some thing of them selves. Parents should promote risk taking in children.

I remember my late uncle who is my inspiration and behind my approach to life. Where as my dad would say that you need capital to start a business my uncle would say you do not need Capital to start a business. I must admit my Uncle was arrogant in nature, but he was very clever and business oriented. He was a self made millionaire. He taught me a lot in our encounters though few as I was I young during his prime. I remember he came home to see his sister who was my mother but she was not there. He found me watching a Bruce Lee movie and he said to why waste time watching these useless movies instead of thinking of ways of how to make money. He went on to emphasise that only fools are ones who wait for capital to start business, one has to be clever. Then I was a bit young to grasp what he was on about. But as I grew up it made a lot of sense and it transformed my life. I found myself leaning more towards his way of thinking and I combined his way of thinking and my dads. I have also learned to look at who ever I come across as better than me in that I learn of them and take their best bits and make it my own.

It is my hope that more and more people would wake up and take more risks in Malawi. Because the trend in Malawi is that of copying one another, first there were Mini buses and every one followed. In the end no one could make enough money as the market was saturated now came the trend of trucks once people saw one, making money everyone joined in the business and now the market is also becoming saturated. Now people have started venturing in the buses and as usual most people in Malawi are now following suit.

It is not like people can not think on their feet but rather people do not venture in something that involves risk taking. People don’t want to lose their hard earned money. They would rather venture in an idea that has already been tried and tested, one that can show that someone is making money out of it. What most tend not to realise is that in the end the market becomes very saturated and yes they may not lose their money but can not make any meaningful progress it just becomes a game of survival. Diversification is what most people need and imagination and most of all risk taking is good. I actually mean calculated risk not reckless investing. Come on take a gamble.

AIDS The Forgoten Disease

It is sad to note that these days AIDS seem to be the forgotten disease, most people are just fucking around without regard to sexually transmitted diseases. A girl i know is busy fucking any thing that comes her way, coupled by the fact that she is thousands of miles away from her partner in Malawi. It has ignited the sex maniac in her, she has gone wild men. As I remember in the early days Africa suffered with AIDS alot, due to cultures standing in the way of sensitisation of the general public. Kamuzu Banda and his stooges felt that it was a taboo to talk about sex on the radio or news papers. How naive and stupid the then government decision was, this in the end has costed Malawi as a nation, a big loss through death of loved ones. Eventually the following governments after Kamuzu, promoted the sensitisation of the public and finally almost every one in Malawi was aware that there is AIDS out there. Alot of organisations propped up to deal with the AIDS pandemic. It was observed that people began to change their habits and there was a reduction of cases of HIV AIDS. Time passed by and drug companies from developed countries seized the moment and started offering different types of medication for those HIV positive to prolong their lives. Suddenly people realised that there is life after AIDS after all and all hell broke loose. Suddenly people realised that there are lots of cheap AIDS medication about, whats there to stop them from all the fucking without Condoms. Yes these drugs like ARV's seem to be slightly prolonging life of those infected but some of the medication in Africa are of poor quality and some are un licenced drugs in other words the government does not know of their existence or do they? In the end the drugs are doing more harm than good. Authorities need to do more and change tactics before its too late. Bosses of these AIDS charities, need to focus the resources more on the people that they are really meant to serve; and not buying very expensive cars for themselves as the rumours are suggesting.

Mama Africa

Woke up this morning with a terrible hangover, wondering why the hell i have been drinking like that. Ummm same old story different day. I kinda just have to get past the hangover, the head is pounding like crazy. so who shall I slug off now umm. Africa oh Africa my mother land you are infected big time corruption has engulfed you like cancer poverty all over you Africa rotting corpses all over. why oh why indeed why mother Africa what did you do to deserve this. Leadership all over Africa full of greed and hatred. Clinging on to power till death do us part oh why oh why. Depleted resources and loss of human resources through Africans pursuing greener pastures and through HIV and AIDS. It is then no wonder we have all these problems oh mama Africa. Too caught up in the past with colonialism, blaming everyone else but yourself mama Africa. You have the same leaders stuck in corruption non imaginative ways of governing. Dictatorships is the norm and foolish African presidents cant even condemn such styles of governments. In fact they glorify it by supporting those perpetrators.Take for instance former Malawian President Bakili Muluzi ruled for Ten years in line with the constitution though he tried to change the Constitution to run again for a third term but failed. Now he is trying to come back to power by trying to manipulate the constitution. Yet the constitution is clear section 83 says The president, The vice President, and the second vice president shall serve the maximum of two consecutive terms in their respective jobs. This has created alot of tension in the country plus the fact that he muluzi was arrested and charged with corruption. I personally think he has a case to answer well at least so he can clear his name as he claims to be Innocent. But one wonders why he has been dodging this case but obtaining injunction after injunction trying to stop the Ant Corruption Bureau from questioning him. Finally the courts ruled against him and the ACB were able to question him and took him to court so he can prove his innocence. I sometimes question his logic or be it of his advisers. if he did not obtain his injunctions against this case it would have been done and dusted a while ago. Now this case is haunting him and he may even not be able to participate in these elections. Now he is claiming that this Case is politically motivated, honestly he delayed this case himself and he should blame no one but himself. Realistically speaking he is the one who is causing alot of tension in our country to the point that African Union sent representatives in Joachim chisano and his Ghanaian compatriot both of whom gave up power after their terms in power finished. Muluzi Really should be following their foot steps to retire from active politics and leave us in peace. Chisano and his friend instead of telling Muluzi straight that you are the problem you should just retire they go on and beat about the bush typical of Africans. I Was not surprised when they left without telling this Clinger to back off and go retire some where else. Come on call a spade a spade look at Zimbabwe and Sudan and many other African countries leaves a lot to be desired about the African approach. Believe me there is not going to be another Kenya here for this is not a case of injustice but one persons greed. It may be argued that democracy will not suit all countries. But i choose to disagree, who wouldn't want a government for the people by the people. The problem is not democracy but governments increasingly being detached from reality on the ground. Mama Africa you are too weak to get rid of this rulers bent on misappropriating resources being dictatorial. This leaders clinging on to power till they die. The leaders are too proud to admit that mama Africa is in peril. Wake up Africa unite we can not continue being ruled by such rulers.

Female candidate

Be it a ploy or merit i think that the choice of Joyce Banda as a running mate to Bingu is a clever and good one. she may be the first female vice president of Malawi. I like this choice so much because it breaks the the norm that when you are from another region you have to pick some one from another region just to add the numbers. This to me is what sets Bingu from the rest the other one who impress me is loveness gondwe and her party her concept is smart like Muthalika. The other one who i respect is katsonga now that is thinking at its best you have to look at one who is focused and development oriented and follow that. Muluzi umm what more can I say the guy wants to finish UDF too bad UDF can't see. Well can not really blame UDF because they are so far up Muluzi's arse can't think straight gone are the days when you just bank on ignorant Malawians, people are much clever than before. All the vendors spend Muluzi's money and dump him when it comes to voting. John Tembo where do i start he thinks he is already there but he will be surprised i don't think he is really worthy considering he has a lot of scores to settle muluzi thinks Tembo has forgotten but he will bite you back for putting him in prison he is already fore telling what he will do when he comes to power. You are lucky Bingu is putting you to prison Tembo will Kill all of you Mark my words

chisano and AU

Well African Union where do i begin the president of AU now is Gaddafi very undiplomatic thinks he is clever than every African. At least i can dig Mugabe he tried to give land back to his people but done it in the wrong way. killing innocent people along the way i would hate to be ruled by some shmack who thinks he was born to rule every African. Yes most of Africa leaves a lot to be desired but,we will make it one day. We have to look and learn from the past and correct our mistakes. Chissano allegedly is trying to calm the situation in Malawi and seriously the problem is Muluzi plain and simple the guy is trying to come back to rule Malawi when the Constitution does not allow him. Talk about tension he Muluzi is the one who is bringing all this tension. It is nothing personal against Muluzi but he has to understand that there are lots of Malawians who can rule the country much better than him. He had his ten years and he messed up what more can he offer us. I don't have a problem with UDF as a party and i don't think anyone has. It is just him Muluzi he has his kid why not promote his kid instead. Anybody but Muluzi, it is a matter of principle. the framers of the Constitution had nothing but the these facts in mind that no one should continue ruling Malawi for ever like Kamuzu.

Merry christmas

Just thought I wish every one a merry Christmas and a happy new year i hope we all prosper in the new year.i know i will , and i can see myself going places the year 2009. It is my time to shine now ready of not here i come. well new year resolutions uuumm! the usual lose weight well i just want to look good when i next see my wife and my two handsome boys. Right now i feel like a million bucks ,have some bits of fat that needs to be shed. A little bit of jogging, not really a big fun of jogging but somebody is got to do it.

Food security award

Congratulations Bingu or should i say Ngwazi DR Bingu wa muthalika for the award that you have just been given. I am one of your biggest admires i like your vision i hope one day i get a chance to meet and discuss some of your achievements. i hope one day i will learn the secret to your success. Personally as a Malawian i am very proud that finally there is some one who really cares about the Malawian people lets be honest Bingu has done lots of things that Muluzi never dreamt of. I hope for the sake of our mother land you get to be given another 5 years mandate to govern and i should wish and hope that you will relinquish the post once you serve your time. All the best. To be honest i have to hand it to you for pulling it out despite all the frustrations that the opposition have caused you. i cant Begin to imagine what you would have achieved had you not been frustrated by the opposition. well read Nyasa times article about people eating mangoes because of starvation. Like many stories on Nyasa times its difficult to prove it and even though Bingu is making an effort to change things so that every one is empowered and not only a few business people. there are a lot of factors that affect people well being.Yeah some of you may wish to bring about the sec 65 issue i personally think that Bingu did not do anything wrong as you may recall he contested it at the courts and lost and it was within his rights to contest it as his government relied on it. Then the issue was passed on to the speaker of the house who was supposed to deal with the sec 65 but MP's who were going to be affected went and obtained injunctions which meant speaker of the house chimango's hands were tied.I think its more of a survival issue than a Constitution every body is trying to survive. Most Malawian politicians are in it for the money as evidenced at the squabbles going on at party nominations. Most of aspiring MPs don't give a shit about developing malawi only in it for the money. Another thing whats with this mp for life like MR Tembo since 60's as an MP i personally think that we need a whole revamp of the whole house of parliament bring in new blood and hence new ideas help the country move forward.

Why do i bother

Yeah come to think of it why do i bother i fight the impossible battle dreaming the impossible dream ahh well dreams aside i think everything is possible. Yeah i would like to be the one trying to sort all the problems of the world but i think it is impossible. Yeah was having a conversation wih my missus and pointed out all the things that i felt i could try and educate people about. You know what she said? 'leave them did they ask for your advice' Then it dawned on me that she was right. Why do i bother telling people what to think or how to get by most of them will never get to see things the way i see them. After all if God saw it fit to distribute wealth and intelligence differently then who am i to try and change that. I guess i just have to thank God for the wisdom and guidance. There was a time when all friends drunk beer lots of it and i was caught up in that predicament well you have to understad that to me that was high life cause that was all i new. Then there was a period when i was into women so much up to the point of obsession then i passed that fase got married and now have two children. When my second baby was born i stared noticing some changes in me wisdom started creeping in. The I realised for the first time that i could see things the way they are meant to be, instead of trying to change peoples perception i might as well change mine to suite them.

Congrants Tembo

Congratulation Mr Tembo for being selected or rather imposing yourself to be the MCP torch bearer. I just hope that this time if you lose you will give up the mantle to some one else. Especially the young look no offence but people of your generation have done enough all people of Malawi have nothing but respect. Must admit some hate you even for the things they suffered from the Kamuzu era as it was rumoured you were the kingpin then, deposing of other political opponents. honestly speaking it is wrong to just blame you because most of the beneficiaries of the MCP era moved to all other different parties they also were to blame. But enough of that now it is all in the past things have moved on. UDF also committed a lot of atrocities some even worse than the MCP but because they were busy greasing a lot of people most people looked the other way. Now Bingu Is being blamed for violating this and that and gets blamed really for not greasing a lot of people.

Ndirande complications

Just as i predicted it has started to happen in Ndirande complications from all the money politicians were scrambling to donate. History has it that we have very selfish and greedy people among us Malawians. It looks like it is being passed on from generation to generation. Instead of distributing the money fairly some have decided to have it to themselves. A word of advice never ever mess's up with some ones money really i wish there was more i could do to get this into peoples heads this simple advice which i shall repeat in italics to make sure you got it Never ever mess up with some ones money. Saddam messed up with peoples money look what happened to him they killed him and his family or some of it. Muluzi messed up with Bingu's money when he got him sacked from comesa look what happened he dumped the sucker. In the process Bingu messed up with Muluzi's Money and now Muluzi wants a pay back. All this Muluzi come back all the bullshit about being the peoples leader comes down to one simple fact Bingu messed up with his money and all those liches that follow him be it blindly or otherwise. well actuary most of them are clever lot in it for nothing but money. Personally i like them both Muluzi for his sense of humour generosity and Bingu for vision no nonsense altitude. Who do we vote for i am not sure really. If i vote for Muluzi i will get rich quick while everybody else is suffering whilst if i vote Bingu i will have to earn my living while everybody is also developing as well. I'm i really not sure? Ha ha ha I do not think so read between the lines.